Love yourself?
Well, not from the egocentric love that we tend to bath ourselves with unknowingly. That same egocentric love that tends to turn on us in situations of challenge, fear, jealousy and self-gratification; love and guilt do not seem compatible but there they are coexisting when we live through our false-self and not our True Nature. Here are several helpful tips to shift that energy from ego to true self:
Care for yourself: I am sure you have heard this phrase before: “you need to love yourself before people will love you”. It is true though on so many levels. Care for yourself by eating healthy food. Love yourself by exercising and getting in shape. Care for yourself by stopping to notice nature and settling into quiet meditative respite. Yes, care=love…. Care for yourself and good things will happen.
Don’t judge! Stop judging yourself as this is your ego in control. The guilt and the negative energy only slow your social and spiritual evolution. Let truth, compassion and good karma be the root of your actions. Be careful not to judge others – there is nothing positive about judging or gossiping about others – it only creates bad karma and erodes your credibility.
Change how you think: Happiness sits in the palm of your hand. Stop blaming others for your failures and shortcomings. Find truth in your thoughts and actions. Be more mindful of your surroundings and try to root your thoughts more in the present – away from mindless dribble of past and future; fear and fantasy. Find empowerment within and then live by example – there is nothing more authentic.
Face fear head on: This is a biggy and is one area in my journey to self-discovery that I am still working on. Fear holds us back from reaching our true potential. Every time you are hesitant out of fear or anxiety, let that be a mental trigger to push through those inhibitions and find the magic that is sitting on the other side of that wall your ego built to supposedly protect you from fear. Break that wall down and challenge yourself to face fear head on and watch how your True Nature arises from the empowerment you just created…
John C. Bader
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Love this post, John! These tips are essential on our path to self-love!
I have a question for you: with regard to the tip to “care for yourself”, what would you say to someone who logically understands the importance of self care, yet can’t seem to apply it into their life?
Looking forward to your wise answer,
Janet
Love this post, John! These tips are essential on our path to self-love!
I have a question for you: with regard to the tip to “care for yourself”, what would you say to someone who logically understands the importance of self care, yet can’t seem to apply it into their life?
Looking forward to your wise answer,
Janet
Hi Janet! Thanks for the interest and I appreciate your comments. That is a great question! Self-Care is important: IE eating well, exercising, nurturing your mind with positive affirmations and energy, etc. It is one thing to know the correct path and it is completely a different thing to apply this wisdom and knowledge for true authentic betterment. Sometimes it can feel like there is this wall holding us back. We know the right path, but where is the energy and empowerment to take the next big step toward self-fulfillment and self-discovery? The biggest obstacle is our ego… a dirty three letter word that controls our social and even our subconscious thoughts and emotions; many times unknowingly. We know the right path, but then the ego steps in for better or worse and will mediate between our thought facilities; many times leading us down the path of mediocrity (the easier path). The ego is not always bad but in the interest of social and spiritual evolution we need to be mindful of the ego and how it obscures our true need for happiness. The ego deals with our false-self; addictions, fears and fantasy – these emotions and feelings become who we are and we forget that there is another path – an illuminated path without guilt and anxiety. The key is to be mindful of what is holding us back… Whether it is eating poorly, lack of exercise or social conflict; the key is being aware of our intent before we act blindly. We need to ask ourselves before creating an action: Is this action going to feed my ego and create more mediocrity or is it aligned with my True Nature; my heart wish. It is a measured process, but the more mindful you become of your thoughts the better you will be equipped to know the difference between ego and True Nature – I have some info pack posts on Ego and True Nature here at word press – just do a search in the upper right of my Responsive Universe Word Press Blog page and you will find more helpful content – as always, please do not hesitate to ask any questions – asking the right questions means your life is evolving in the right direction – JCB