Some of us find it hard to love ourselves. What does that really mean to love ourselves? It can be easy to find faults in who we think we are. Maybe you are unorganized or have bad habits. Yeah, join the club! Maybe you get stressed out easy or are being medicated for depression and or anxiety. Maybe you wish you were healthier or more fit and lean. Maybe you do not like crowds or being the center of attention.  Most of this self-loathing is rooted to our egos and false perceptions. It makes us want to be someone else or we mentally berate ourselves as if we are unworthy and unlovable;  many times unknowingly. I catch myself berating my own ego (false-self) for the paths it unknowing takes me on at times. But here I am beating my own self-worth up because the ego is a part of me whether I like it or not. Molded by society the ego is an extension of who I am much like a mirror image is just that – a projection of my entity.  It is one thing to love who you are and it is a completely different thing to love what you are. There is a fundamental difference to be actualized. Our perception of who we are is rooted in societal pressures, what we see on television, Facebook, etc. Our happiness is regulated by self-esteem and the approval of others. This sets us up for failure and ultimately suffering.

Yet, there is another kind of love… In fact, there is another way to love yourself; and this other kind of love transcends all the passive chaos that envelopes planet Earth. We are products of the Universe and thus are born from quantum positive energy. There is a quality to this that is pure and unfettered. We are the sons and daughters of vibration, light and love and that is something no one can take away from you. Our energy is indestructible. This is our True Nature, vast, boundless and reliable. It is easy to love yourself when you look at where the source of our being is rooted (True Nature). Your True Nature is an instinctual energy that connects us to everything inward and outward. Find ways to connect to your true-self with simple actions: Look up at night and marvel at the stars. Appreciate silence, nature and the love for a pet or child. This is a love that is all-powerful and unchanging. Put your confidence into this type of love and soon you will realize all of your shortcomings in life, all of your bad habits and self-loathing are just products of a self-esteem driven by ego. Such worries and deceptions will seem trivial and unnecessary once you find empowerment from an inner source. We all have problems and challenges and we always will… So, find love for what you are – energy, love and wisdom; and do not let your false-self govern your happiness. Our problems and challenges should not define us. After all, when we are all dead and gone so will the ego and its inner conflicts. Yet, our True Nature will live on – energy changing form!

There is nothing confident and steadfast about our egos. Much like money, the ego comes and goes and for many it regulates our happiness and suffering. The more control we take away from the ego, the more we connect to the steadfast vision that is our True Nature. Love what you are (a product of the Universe born from love and energy) and happiness and confidence will root itself in your life. Once you have this unadulterated confidence of what you are, soon your perspectives in life will change. Soon you will make little changes in life like eating better, exercising or getting more organized. Soon, very soon, you will connect that love of what you are and who you are as one – A quality of oneness bathed under the light of self-actualization and enlightenment.

Once you love yourself for what you are, you will begin to love yourself for who you are. Once one has reached this milestone in life, our work is not finished. Now, it is time to love others and find compassion for those still in need. Love is powerful and is the connection between the Universe and humankind. Find it, be it; and love it…


John C. Bader

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