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We know toxins in food are bad for you. We also know that high levels of stress are bad for you as well. A new study released recently in the Molecular Psychiatry publication and written by author Idan Shalev, makes a startling revelation:  Violence ages children’s DNA.  I can recall that my childhood was less than perfect and trust me, that is an understatement. It makes me wonder how an abusive childhood could be affecting my life span.

Scientists are able to measure cellular aging by studying the cells of children’s chromosomes called Telomeres. Telomeres are special DNA sequences that act like the plastic tips on shoelaces, which prevent the DNA chromosomes from unraveling and degenerating.  These DNA chromosomes get shorter each time cells divide and each time a cell divides the sequence gets shorter until it cannot divide anymore – thus cellular death.

Several factors have been documented to shorten Telomeres including smoking, radiation and psychological stresses like early childhood abuse. Research shows Telomeres shorten faster in kids exposed to two or more types of violence or abuse. This is further evidence that shows we live in a Responsive Universe and the ability to wield the hand of God exists in all of us. In this case, maybe it is the hand of the Devil (if you believe in that stuff).

Point is, humans, children especially, are responsive creatures that need love and energy. The opposite is true as well. We all wield the power to take energy and life from others. There is hope though; in rare cases Telomeres can lengthen through better nutrition, exercise and stress reduction.  I guess it is a good thing I juice and exercise.

I think the long and the short is this – hug and love your children; live with compassion and know that every action you create does create a positive or negative reaction based on its source. Be mindful and create positive energy in every facet of your life.

 

John C. Bader

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The wounds of child abuse can heal

The investigation into childhood memories can be both good and bad—both a retrospect of anger, fear and frustration. Hopefully you also have fond memories which include well being and love. All experiences, whether good or bad, shape us into the person we were in the past, who we are in the present, and who we will become in the future. I love the game of poker and surprisingly there is a metaphor to be drawn here. Poker is a challenging game because it requires skill, luck and some psychology. It reminds me of life in many ways. Even with all the skills to navigate this ever changing world, still there is the element of luck and probability. Some things we just can’t control. The game of “Draw Poker” can be frustrating when round after round you keep getting dealt bad cards. Our childhood and distant past are poker cards in the game of life. Many times, our history deals cards that do not help our proverbial chip stack, but in keeping with this playing card metaphor, we always have the opportunity to discard the bad and draw new cards. We can also fold our hand completely if we do not like what has been presented to us. We can reject what has been dealt to us but still have faith that better luck will come.

When we look back on a shadowed past, you and I need to realize that these past childhood issues can be affecting us as individuals on many unseen levels. Everyone has witnessed a myriad of positive and negative experiences that have shaped us to some degree. You must realize, however, that the shadows of the past may be concealing an enigma that is influencing your future and perhaps even the futures of others around you. For me, I noticed that anger and frustration began to surface as an adult and later as a parent. This frustration born from ego and control patterns was directly related to how I was raised as a child. Still, I acknowledged a trigger of awareness. This awareness came when I felt frustrated and angry. I used this as a trigger of mindfulness to stop and not react blindly. I directed my attention to the vastness of my True Nature; a place within us all that is constant and dependable.  Now, I have learned to make space for such control patterns that facilitate anger and frustration. When I realized I was heading down a path of dysfunction, I made a positive change in my actions. Instead of reacting blindly and reinforcing old patterns of behavior, I changed my actions for the better. I broke the chain of dysfunction by connecting to a higher level of awareness. Lets face it, there are some things in the past we just can not change. Still, all our future actions are the key to self-evolution and wellness.

If your feelings and memories feel a little abrasive; if this process feels uncomfortable, then you are heading down the right path. Feeling raw emotions is a level of mindfulness and it is an integral part of the overall process. Think about it, we need to know pain and suffering in order to know the difference between that and pleasure and bliss. Otherwise, how would you differentiate the two? Feeling an abrasive quality as you toy and catalog your past emotions is healthy. Still, please attempt to tie it all into a positive completion of the process. Feel the negative emotions of the past, but then relish in the notion that things will get better. Surrender into your spacious vision that the Universe is not evil – only humans exhibit evil. Find confidence that though the stars at night may be obscured by the clouds, this is only temporary – that clear skies will prevail. Find positive awareness in these emotions and feelings from the past. Understand the past and then move on with only positive will and compassion. A shadowed past does not need to be a disability. Let it be a lesson in the school of life. Learn, love and create new positive energy.

John C. Bader

 

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Negativity appears to be a human born trait. Why would I say that? Well, there is nothing negative about the Universe. The Cosmos which is everything that exists can be visualized as a vast concentration of quantum energy that pulses and connects across a web of particles, gravity and waves of light. In universal terms birth gives way to death and thus facilitates re-birth. Stars born from hydrogen gas will eventually die and exhale their tired gases to form new stars. Humans will also be born and then die – There is nothing negative about that concept. Yet, negativity does exist here on Earth. Born from human emotions and driven from ego, in some facet, we all harbor our own negativity – some worse than others. Unfortunately, it is a grim facet of our existence –driven by money, jealously, anger and greed, negativity in some form has existed since humans began walking this Earth.

Even the unfettered honesty and innocence of a young child can be molested by negativity. Child abuse is a good example of passing on such dysfunction. Social pressures and ego only seem to ratify and reinforce such behaviors. I personally have had several negative defining experiences in my childhood. Such negative experiences can affect us at the core of our being and mature and grow with us into adulthood. I will use a broad model that we can all base experience on: These negative experiences that I endured as a child continued to affect my self esteem all the way into high school. The control patterns that I harbored (hardwired learned behaviors) would morph from one psychological issue to another. Just when I thought I got my self-esteem under control, a new issue arose; an inflated ego. Unknowingly, I replaced my fear and low sense of self worth with a false sense of security. I fed my ego which in turn self gratified my need for acceptance.  For me, low self-esteem was the main problem but feeding my ego simply masked the problems that were still rooted to my childhood. It makes one wonder if ego really is the root of all negativity.

We are all faced with such challenges: Child abuse is just the beginning for some. When we look at the world as a whole, what do we see? A lot of suffering! Once we can let go of our egos, there is a fundamental desire fix the world. Yet, in order to do that, we need to fix ourselves first. We need to realize that negative issues can be affecting us as individuals on many unseen levels. Everyone has witnessed a myriad of positive and negative experiences that have shaped us to some degree. You must realize, however, that the shadows of the past may be concealing an enigma that is influencing your future and perhaps even the futures of others around you. For me, I noticed that anger and frustration began to surface as an adult and later as a parent. This frustration born from ego and control patterns was directly related to how I was raised as a child. Still, I acknowledged a trigger of awareness. This awareness came when I felt frustrated and angry. I used this as a trigger of mindfulness to stop and not react blindly. I directed my attention to the vastness of my True Nature; a place within us all that is boundless, constant and dependable.  Now, I have learned to make space for such control patterns that facilitate anger and frustration. When I realized I was heading down a path of dysfunction, I made a positive change in my actions. Instead of reacting blindly and reinforcing old patterns of behavior, I changed my actions for the better. I broke the chain of dysfunction by connecting to a higher level of awareness.

Next, I am going to talk about space and how it relates to us as individuals: The space that surrounds us and also the space within the mind – there lies the key to creating more happiness and less negativity.

 

John C. Bader

 

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