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There was an article in the USA Today newspaper on Monday that caught my eye. That’s right, I actually read the newspaper. Further, I love USA Today – it has everything I want and nothing I do not want.

Anyway, getting back to my point; I read an article by Tom Krattenmaker talking about the “doomsday hype about this supposedly wayward generation” – He is talking about this latest generation of “Millennials” that are now just heading into their early adulthood – you know, the future of America. Mr. Krattenmaker actually defends this generation by saying “different does not mean devoid”.

There are some sociologists and outspoken religious people that worry our newest generation of adults are lacking god and immersed in immoral behavior that is centered on alcohol and sex. Not sure anything has changed there? Ever heard of the 70s? Ever heard of the roaring twenties? The fact is there are always bad apples in any generation – ever heard of Hitler or Charles Manson? Still, all generations have their Albert Einstein’s too. Really nothing has changed in regard to our youth – just a different decade. What has changed is society and technology. Our youth is evolving to meet the needs of this new computer/instant gratification driven world.  As we all get older, we tend to lose touch with the youth that has filled in the ranks behind us. Still, we see reflections of this new guard in our own children and family.

From my standpoint, yes society is changing –the world is changing. Still I do not see a godless, incompetent generation maturing to their twenties. My daughter is 23 years old and is going to school and working in what is the most oppressive and challenging economy since the “Great Depression”. She is working her ass off and I am very proud of her. My college days were a lot less stressful.  Further, my 10 year old son just got an A+++ on his Colonial ABC project – Eat your heart out Ben Franklin!

Society is evolving but that is not a bad thing. Those that focus on the bad all the time are simply back-sliding into an unpalatable world. Still, it’s an illusion. Believe what you want; there is always good behind the bad. There is always blue sky behind the clouds. Many times it is just your perspective that wears rose-colored glasses.  Take those glasses off and see the world for what it is – a Responsive Universe.

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Foolishness can sometimes look you straight in the eye – the ironic thing is I am looking at my own reflection. I will try to explain. Hard wired behaviors and control patterns can be unseen governing forces as we carry ourselves in life. Sure I am a product of my own upbringing and sometimes being a parent and Father has its challenges. Sometimes I do not even know what I am doing in regard to child rearing. The whole process of life can be a blur of work, paying bills and raising children. Yet, somehow, we all move on with smiles on our faces –most of the time.

Sometimes I am tough on my 10-year-old son. Tough in ways that I think are proactive to his wellbeing and development. Am I a professional at this thing called parenting? I guess so; I have been at it for 10+ years. Still, today, I realized when I look into my son’s eyes; I am looking at myself 31 year ago – a mirror image of a child and existence that seems so far gone. Maybe that is why I do not relate to my sons frustrations and challenges as well as I could or should. Well, not anymore… Today, while on the beach in Kauai, I had an epiphany. In the reflection of my son’s eyes, I saw myself as a child: meek, soft-spoken and awkward in many ways. Though most of my thoughts do not turn to actions, I still feel bad and remorseful. Could I be a better parent? Actions speak louder than words, right?

Enough of the negativity… I turned and praised my kid for all his good attributes and gave him a big hug and a kiss. And then I gave him another big hug and kiss. No one is perfect, but we can improve – even as parents of wonderful children.

Ohana means family in Hawaiian. As New Years looms, I am very thankful for my family. We all make mistakes time to time, but the important thing is to learn from our errors and makes sure our kids know they are loved.

Tomorrow is New Years Eve in the Hawaiian Islands – more to come!

John C. Bader

 

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Today might be a morning of philosophical tirades….

It was one of those crisp autumn mornings here in Chicagoland: Sure the sun was out at 6:15am, but it was a chilly September dawn and it was terribly difficult to roll out of bed and hop into the shower. Even worse are my son’s neurotic issues with socks. Getting him ready for school is in itself a challenge: Not only does he have to wear his socks inside out; they need to be a specific brand (the ones with the gold arrows on them!). There is a pile of other socks in his drawer (some new and ready for service) that do not meet approval and soon I am late to work because I am on a sock crusade looking for a match so he can move on to chocolate chip Eggo waffle mode. I will not even get into detail of how long it actually takes for him to put on a pair of socks – excruciating is the only word that comes to mind.

Today is picture day in the 4th grade and last night I was clearly instructed by the wife (the better half) to take my son for a haircut. Well, actually she requested this last week and I squandered the entire Labor Day weekend enjoying the last scraps of summer. So, last night after work we stopped into Great Clips to get the deed done. Of course, being that it is picture day the following day, other parents were scrambling to make their children somewhat presentable for the big photo shoot. I do not know about you, but I have a real problem waiting in Great Clips. There are unruly, snot sniffling kids running amuck in the waiting area, the stench of hair products and there is something about watching other people get groomed that does not resonate well with me.  Now I know where my son gets his sock issues from. After being told there was a 45 minute wait, I made an about-face and aborted mission. Fast forward about an hour and the bathroom floor in my house is blanketed with my son’s buzzed hair. Talk about taking matters into your own hands! That is about the time my wife walked in with her mouth agape. Shock and awe best describes that scene.

Back to this morning… Once we settled the sock issue, next was the pants debacle. My son will not wear jeans unless he is threatened. Being that I am not one to inflict more emotional damage in one day, I let the jeans issue pass – but, there is a caveat to the morning dressing dilemma: there are no clean pants other than jeans! At this point I am ready to pop a Xanax and throw back a martini. Then I paused because clearly I am well outside the radius of my center.  Writing blogs about Energy Vortexes, the beauty of nature, enlightenment and being mindful is one thing, practicing what you preach is a whole other deal. After a couple deep breaths, I found my center and then laughed out loud. Instead of feeling stressed out, I was amused by the comedy of the moment – shaved heads, socks and insanity before school. Nothing makes things better than hugging your kid and laughing about a completely neurotic morning before picture day. I just hope he smiles when the flash goes off.

John C. Bader

 

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